I have discovered over the years that most people believe that if they change partners they will have changed their lives. Change is an inside job. Most people who change partners find a replacement who is pretty much like the original. If you are considering a family reorganization, think twice and consider counseling instead. However, if you must divorce, make the procedure as positive as you can. Use it as an opportunity to acquire communication skills and develop powerful parenting strategies that are in harmony with the fact that parents are forever. You will be involved with your children’s other parent for the rest of your life. You have the ability to make that relationship healthier.